Unwanted pregnancy and covid 19
It has been said that the covid 19 pandemic has not only led to economic crisis or shutting down of school and churches but also to the increase of unwanted pregnancies.
Well, that's what is being said but, we should know that this problem has been on for so many years. This pandemic didn't add fuel to it. Being idle isn't the reason why people are engaging in sexual activities. Rather this has to do with the morals of today's youth and their carelessness.
When this pandemic started, students were given work to do and, TVs and radios have been helping them to continue focusing on their studies. So, this problem of unwanted pregnancy isn't a result of the youth's iddleness rather, their ways of thinking. Many of them have forgotten their morals and they no longer know what is right or wrong. If only they could be more reasonable and find something productive to do for themselves other than getting engaged in immoral activities such as sex then, all this wouldn't be an issue. Young girls and boys are getting themselves into love that doesn't have a purpose and this leads them to having unprotected sex that gives results to unwanted pregnancy. They don't realise what they have been doing until this disaster falls on them. Sometimes they are even forced into marriage by their parents just to protect their image which brings in more problems. The youth of today have to know that love isn't all about sex and for the girls especially, saying no to someone who is asking you for sex isn't a crime to a relationship rather, it's called self respect. Don't allow boys to use you in the name of love. Boys also should keep in mind that, true love is not proven by having sex. Don't be proud of destroying people's lives and think it won't affect you cause, one day it will hit you and hit you so hard that you won't be able to run away from it.
We all have the capacity to make good choices and, make ourselves better people. We have parents who love us and the community that expects a lot from us as tomorrow's leaders and business people. Our parents always teach us to be good people, to respect ourselves, some of them even gives lessons about sex issues and having life partner.And yes, parents do take time and educate your children during these times of covid 19 pandemic especially, those that are still in school provided that you are now spending more time with each other. And, you should learn how to be friends with your children and know what they are doing day to day. It won't be considered as being nosy for some children might say so, but rather it's a way of a parent trying to be considerate of what his child has been up to, and thereby finding ways to correct the bad habits or encourage their good deeds.such discussions in families are so helpful only that some ignore to do so.Parenting is really a major issue. parents aught to change traditions and openly talk about sex to their children, for the future generation to be secured. If you get time to have such conversation with your parents even if it's once you have to take it serious. And even if your parents don't talk about it or give you time, it doesn't mean you can go on and do your worst. As a grown up you already know what is right for you and what is wrong. Getting yourself into having sex, unprotected sex for that matter knowing all the consequences behind it, then you will be accountable for your mistakes, not your parents or elders who didn't give you time or have serious talk with you cause, if you do something wrong knowingly and blame your parents for not giving you time, then know that you are wrong here. They have done their part in life and if they haven't been the best, then you should be the best by choosing to do the right thing. You have your future ahead of you. Don't destroy it just because your parents don't give you time. They will be judged on their own and you too. You should know that as a young lady it's not your mother that will be carrying that pregnancy, she won't be the one destroying her life if you decide to commit abortion and, she won't be the one either to drop out of school. So think twice before getting yourself into trouble. And for the boy responsible for the pregnancy, it's not your father that will be forced to marry at a young age nor will he be the one giving up his dream of becoming a great person for the sake of starting a family at a young age in case, both families decide that you get married.
This is why, as young people we should consider our tomorrow. If, we keep on having unwanted pregnancy and dropping out of school, how will we have good jobs? How will we become great doctors and business people? We will not get to the development we want if this keeps on happening. The already developed countries are developed mostly because the youth have contributed so much towards that development. Young girls and boys out there had to put their future first before their desires.
I know many of us are saying that the youth should be creative and find something productive to do during this time of covid-19 pandemic and later on, than being driven by useless thoughts. And it's true that out there some people are using each and every opportunity they get to find jobs and even be able to make them. This keeps them busy though. many are busy building their CV by getting online courses, others started volunteering in different companies to develop skills and make their CV heavy.
So, other than finding something wrong with the pandemic and lock down, we should see it as an opportunity to realize and use all the opportunities around us effectively.
But again being creative isn't for everyone but knowing what's right and wrong is possible for all of us.
If a boy keeps asking his girlfriend to visit him that's not a problem, but the problem will be when the boy wants to take advantage of that visit. If the girl has the chance to say no to such demands and decides not to hurt the boyfriend that's the girl to blame. But, if the boy rapes the girl then the boy is to blame.
During this pandemic people who are still in school have been given work to do to keep them busy throughout this time. Those who are ignorant are the ones that have been engaging in sex. If you truly know that you still have a long journey ahead of you which is true, and decides to say yes to the guy asking for sex or seduces a man, then you aren't in your right state of mind.
So we the youth should not blame this idleness or the pandemic and, we don't need to go to school to learn how to put our dignity first. This is something that is said everyday. Let's consider the fact that everyone of us know what's best for them and do exactly what is right.
For the girls don't fall for" I will break up with you if you don't sleep with me" and think that you will never get married if you refuse to sleep with your boyfriend. Don't be desperate to get married. boys, don't you ever think that it's the girl's image and future that will be destroyed. You will realize the bad side of your actions once you get married.
Here is what we ought to do.Let's together help those in need by advising them to love with a purpose, girls, don't be desperate to get married for there is someone out there rightfully meant for you at the right time and, parents should explain the truth about reproductive life and allow their children to know what is right. And another thing, if you can't abstain from sex the use protection. Let's all remind one another to do what is right and consider our dignity and our future too.
You and you alone is the one responsible for your tomorrow. You can choose to make it beautiful and you can also choose to make it ugly and pitiful. It all depends on you.
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