DISCOVERING YOUR EQ

 




Discovering EQ(emotional quotient)

To start with, one can ask what emotion is. Well, emotion is an effective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness. It can also be taken as a feeling in short. I believe and I think each one of us accepts the fact that all humans have feelings and of course have different ways to express them.

Talking about expressing ones emotions or behaviors towards an emotion, this kind of behavior is not that one that defines a person. Here we are talking about that behavior as a reaction that is triggered by the current emotion. One can also define that behavior as a way one reacts due to his emotions. Let's say someone is feeling Happy or is made happy, how does the person express his happy feelings? Does he shout? Cry? Talk of some one angry. How does that angry person react? Anger is the feeling here or the emotion inside that person. So how does he react? The thing here is, we all have feelings and those feelings sometimes make us react in different ways and not all of us reacts in the same way though.

The relationship between these two (emotion and behavior) is that behavior comes after a feeling. Meaning one is a response to the other. After feeling something, you react in relation to that feeling which is the behavior we are talking about.
Now the next thing has to be how a person controls his emotions so as to react in a better way. This is where the EQ comes in. EQ includes some key competencies which then have further subheads viz. self-awareness which includes emotional awareness, self-assessment & self-confidence; self-regulation which includes self-control, trustworthiness, conscientiousness, adaptability & innovativeness ; self-motivation which includes drive, commitment, initiative & optimism; social awareness which includes empathy, service orientation, developing others, leveraging diversity, and political awareness; and social skills which include influence, communication, leadership, change management, conflict management and cooperation as it is in this link, click here

You will get to know that any one can control his emotions cause it's something we all learn and get used too. It's so important to learn how to control our emotions so that they won't lead us to doing crazy things. Like some who take their lives due to being sad and depressed. Or some commit murder out of anger. Well there are also beautiful emotions but the case here is how do you control them? Are you someone who gets overwhelmed? Or very excited that you might loose yourself in the process or, you are that someone who controls his emotions so that they won't get the best of you. As it is explained above, EQ is like a way  you manage your  emotions.

You know when you manage to control your emotions mostly the decisions you take are positive and excellent compared to those you might take in case emotions take the best of you. You can't stop feeling something but you can control how you react or respond to that feeling. Decisions taken by someone who is overwhelmed can make that person to regret after. Which is why we have to learn how to control our emotions. Once a man called  Ziad K. Abdelnour said" Don't promise when you're happy, Don't reply when you're angry, and don't decide when you're sad". This explains well why one has to first think twice before saying or deciding something. All those are done due to how one is feeling and as we all know not all days are equal and that change is inevitable. So we have to consider this before we make any move regarding our emotions or feelings.

You might be good at controlling yourself and you can't say you were born with that, or blame someone else for not being able to control theirs. The only thing you can do is to help and teach them, give them some tips on how to hold on to their feelings and how to control them, so that they won't continue acting crazy and regretting over their decisions. In this world we all need each other and learn from each other. The way you think you need help from someone, same way someone needs help from you.


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